I'm turning 45 in a few days, and I'm still wondering inside when I'm going to feel like a grown up. I mean, I know that technically I AM a grown up - I've been married (twice), have kids, had a successful 20+ year TV career, and now have my own business and own my own home. Plus, like I said, I’m going to be 45. So I get that I'm most definitely, officially a grown up, and even more than that, I'm certainly considered "middle age”. To mark the occasion, here are a few nuggets of wisdom I've learned along the way…
1. Stop doing shit you hate
For real. Now I’m not saying there aren’t times you have to do unenjoyable things. But if you feel like you are constantly, regularly doing things that you really just can’t stand, then you’ve gotta find a way to stop. Life is too damn short.
2. Let it go
Seriously, how many times a day do you get pissed off? Between kids and spouses, there can definitely be a fair bit of teeth clenching going on. And who’s affected the most when you’re all scrunched up and angry? Yeah, that’s right, you are. In the grand scheme of things, most of the crap that fires us up can be put behind us with just a minute or two of deep breaths - and in my case, essential oils. (And reference #2 - life is too damn short.)
3. Figure out what your priorities really are
I know, it’s hard not to lump money/finances towards the top. But if you yearn to have a more flexible schedule so that you can spend more time with your family, then you may want to consider reprioritizing your 9-5. Making less cash money can often be a very worthy trade-off to ensure you get the quality lifestyle you crave.
4. Be like the Kardashians
Now give me a second here, as I use the Kardashians as a reference. This has nothing to do with whether or not you like or respect what you see or even think you know about them. Just think for a second about what a close-knit family they are. Do they fight? Sure. Can it get ugly? You bet. But do you ever wonder how they grew up and remained as close as they all are? I’m not suggesting they are the model family to emulate in everything they do. But I’ll tell you, if my children grow up to consider each other - and me - their best friends and want to spend so much time together, I will be busting with pride for an admirable accomplishment.
5. Success isn't really about money
Sure, we live in a society that values money. A lot. And I'm not gonna lie - I like money, too. When my first marriage was ending, I remember people being shocked that I was willing to leave a situation where finances weren’t really a concern. But how much money you have - or don't have - has zero to do with whether you're a success. Are you happy? Because that’s truly the definition of success. Waking up every day enjoying what’s happening around you and feeling surrounded by people you love is way more important.
Any life lessons you care to share? I’d love to hear them!